About 7 years ago, after the end of a long shift my best friend offered me some weed. I told her that I had never smoked weed and I wasn't going too. She insisted because she said I was acting like an annoying little bitch and I needed to relax.
So I gave into peer pressure (didn't take much) and smoked my first bowl. When I think back to how high I was, I honestly can't remember. I'm almost certain I that I was higher than I had ever been up until that point. Almost.
Back then, weed was just as accessible but a little scarier to get. You always had to meet some sketchy guy in a random dimly lit parking lot and he would tell you the story about how he attained this weed.
It was always one of three stories.
Very rarely was there a major difference in the weed. Sure some would get you higher than others. But for a guy who just wanted to smoke some weed, it all essentially did the same job.
This is when you could buy regular ass weed from regular ass people. Sometimes you'd get stuff that wasn't shaved so it was all on a huge stem. There would be seeds in just about every eighth. Every time you would buy an ounce it would be all the trimmings of the big nugs they would sell to rich white kids, and it would be a third of the price.
Rolling a blunt or a joint or packing a bowl for a bong was all a social experience. You call up your friends and let them know you have some weed and you're coming over. You bring your rolling tray, a grinder, papers or Swishers (Yes, all of y'all used to smoke Swishers. Don't act all uppity with me now. Talking' bout "Swishers are nasty" All y'all was smoking them daily. Don't play wit me) and of course, your weed.
I kept my stuff discrete and in a Victoria's Secret make-up bag. I looked really cool going into friends houses with that. Anyway, the time you spent rolling up and getting everything ready for the session was a part of the whole thing. But ever since weed became legal-ish, the experience is different.
Theres a store or van that will legally sell you weed recreationally in just about every town in California. You go in there and there's security and a place to check in. You have to get buzzed into the next room where there is more security. So essentially your dealer is the one thinking that you're sketchy, instead of the other way around.
And remember that regular weed you used to buy? It doesn't exist anymore! This shit is strong as fuck. And you can for sure tell the difference in the strength of the weed. Theres no sticks or seeds so everything you buy is pure dank. Which is great, right?
I suppose, if your whole goal is to get higher than the last time. And they have these things, I don't know what they are but they look like USBs. You take one hit and you're in a UFO. You take two hits and you are the UFO.
It's like pure THC. You kids don't know how good you got it. I don't know how long those things last but I'm sure it lasts longer than some regular weed.
I miss regular weed. Y'all smoking that Area 52 weed.
Oh and by the way, my best friend that convinced me to smoke weed was my wife. There's a lesson in that.
When you woke up this morning and saw yourself in the mirror, you probably thought to yourself "Oh my god, I'm hideous." And most mornings you would probably be right.
Your breath stinks, your hair is a mess, you literally have boogers in the corners of your eyeballs, and your posture is horrible. You're trying to stand straight up, but you struggle to because you're tired and too busy asking yourself "Why the fuck am I awake right now?"
There's a lot to hate about yourself in the morning, and that's ok. It's not your best moment of the day.
You see it all the time. People are literally stealing other people's pictures off of their social media and using it to catfish somebody. Whether it's because they're mean, conniving, and just plain weirdos, they picked your pictures for a reason.
They saw your pictures and thought to themselves, "If I pretend to be this person, someone will like me." And oddly, a lot of the time it works.
And in a lot of cases, who do you feel worse for? The person doing the catfishing, or the person being catfished? Because it's one thing to get fooled, but to pretend to be another person, that's just creepy. You gotta have some serious issues to waste your time doing that.
Go look at your Instagram right now. You have at least three pictures someone can create a profile with and get like 300 followers instantly.
Anyway, you're fine as fuck. And some creep out there thinks so.
Some creep thinks you're the perfect person to start a fake profile as so that they can get some love.
So after you brush your teeth, do your hair, and wash your face, look in the mirror and tell yourself "I'm cute enough to be a catfish."
Practice your angles and make sure you look good, because you never know who might want to borrow your pictures someday.
A child's favorite question to everything is "Why?" This one word reply can get so annoying after a while. But it's the one question that has never produced an answer.
No matter how many times you answer the question "Why?" there will never be a definitive answer. It could go on forever.
So why don't we ask ourselves this question more?
Think about where you are at in life right now. You are at the point you are in because of the decisions you've made in your life. Or maybe it's from the way you were raised. Or maybe it's because things have happened to you that have been out of your control.
And we always love to ask the world "Why?" Why am I in the position I'm in right now? Why can't I be where I expected myself to be at this point?
It's not wrong to ask yourself these questions. Actually, it's beneficial for you to do so. Because if you aren't reflecting on how you got to where you're at, then what are you doing?
You're most likely self-sabotaging. You're telling yourself that you can't get to the next step in your journey because you're scared, you don't believe in yourself, or you are walking around with the wrong mindset. So how can this one word question help you get to where you want to be?
Even if you've got someone in your life who is challenging you everyday to be better, your future still depends on your decisions. The best way to move forward is to ask yourself "Why?" Why do you want to move forward? What is your motivation? What is your goal? Why is it important to you?
So right now, think about a goal you want to reach. Whether its a new job, a new relationship, or just something new, write it down. Then write down the question "Why?" right underneath your goal.
You'll find that its not hard to think of reasons why you want to be better. But once you can understand what and who you're doing it for, it will make your path to your goals a little bit clearer.
Ask yourself this question everyday, and you'll remind yourself of what's important.
Ok, let's get deeper now. Why are we here? How are we here? This video above talks about a black hole possibly sucking us up one day. *Pause*
If Earth were to get swallowed up by some dark matter, then we'd probably die instantly. In which case, there's nothing to be afraid of because it would happen so quickly we wouldn't even know what would happen.
Maybe it would actually be better. Maybe it would send us into another universe where everyone gets along, theres not so much pollution, and Bill Nye is president of the world.
There's a company right now that is selling rubber bracelets, and using the profits to hire people to clean up the ocean. And while thats all well and great, it would literally take the entire population of the Earth to actually make a difference.
Do you recycle? Why not? You could definitely make a difference by reducing your carbon footprint. Who cares if recycling doesn't get you much money for the work you put in, you could make a real difference by helping out.
And by helping out, we mean just like don't litter and don't be dumb. That's it.
1. the expression or application of human creative skill and imagination, typically in a visual form such as painting or sculpture, producing works to be appreciated primarily for their beauty or emotional power.
You are an art project.
The artists were your biological parents. Coming together to create you. Human expression in it's purest form, used to start a new life.
The child is born as a blank canvas, just waiting to have their colors come to life. The loved ones who are caring for them hold the paintbrushes as they will influence the child's infantile mind. The child can't pick the ones who surround them, so you just hope they aren't too heavy handed.
As they paint the mind with all the words they speak and beliefs they hold, the child knows no other way but to accept these ways. The Father, a young man who has never picked up a paint brush before tries to become an artist.
His attempts are weak. Laughable at times. But the father doesn't know, for he is blind to the fact that his influence will shape this child's life. What should be common sense, does not come easy to the father.
The Mother, a young woman with a heart full of colors shows a desire to mold the child like a sculpture. Using her influence to show the child the ways of the world.
Nothing is ever black and white. She doesn't allow the child to get stuck in the gray area, but allows the child to view life with all it's colors. She has never done this before either, yet it comes natural to her.
The child turns into a teenager and begins to see the world from a different perspective. She is still there everyday. Influencing, encouraging, pushing. The child knows no other way when they're with their mother.
The Father is there from time to time. Picking and choosing when he wants to be an influence and when he wants to be his own man. The Father is still stuck in his childish ways. Being easily influenced by the world around him, not realizing that his paintbrush is running dry.
His words to the child carrying less weight with every day that passes without his influence. Luckily for the child, 90% of the child's life has been painted by his mother. And as he grows into a young man, she begins to hand him the paintbrush.
The child is now in college. Old enough to begin to paint their own picture, but still young enough to crave the influence of their father. The child's words to the father fall on deaf ears, as after all these years the father is still stuck in his same mindset.
But now as a young man, he wants to begin to draw what he believes will be a beautiful painting. And now, the father wants to grab a hold the paintbrush.
Father: "What are you going to college for?"
The young man is silent. Everything he's ever wanted to be in life is being doubted by the man who created him. He asks himself if the father is right. He has no words.
He goes home to tell the mother what has happened. And asks if the doubt raised by his father is true. But she knows what the child's heart has always desired. To be an artist of his own. To create his own future. To be an influence on everyone who's comes in contact with him.
The mother then grabs the industrial sized paint roller and hands it to the young man and says, "Create a masterpiece so beautiful, that nobody can ever put doubt into your mind."
And as the young man grows, he paints his picture with his father's doubt always lingering in his mind. He is everything his father is not, and the proof is in the painting.
There's an easy way to tell when you're too drunk. You've had too many drinks, you become impaired, you're stumbling, you're texting your ex, you're crying in the bathroom for no apparent reason, you're throwing up. Getting drunk doesn't sound as fun when you're a grown up.
You've got shit to do. People to do, things to see.
How high is too high?
That question doesn't even really make sense if you don't think about it. Someone passes you a joint after you've already smoked two, you're not going to just say no. That's rude.
Anybody who is willing to share their weed with you should be celebrated. So you grab that joint and you take at least one hit. One good one, ya know.
After you pass it, you're kinda just sitting there. You're friends are having a conversation about whether or not self-driving cars are a good idea. And wondering if there will eventually be some kind of taxi service with these self-driving cars.
It's like in that one Will Smith movie, where all the cars drive themselves and you have time to work and do whatever else. You're just sitting there in the driver's seat doing your thing, and next thing you know you're at your destination.
A lot of it will have to do with how the roads are constructed and whether or not we can find a way to keep trash, debris, and animals away from the street so the self-driving cars aren't confused on whether or not what they're seeing is something they can drive past or something they need to stop for.
In an ideal world for self-driving cars, it would have to be a situation where all the cars on the road were self-driven. There would have to be some type of communication between the cars themselves to let each other know how fast they're going and where they're going so that the car can make decisions ahead of time.
And . . . wait we got off topic. Ok, hold on.
Smoking! Yes. That's what we were talking about. Ok, so you're sitting there and you're friends are smoking a joint and you're listening to them.
You finally are ready to put in your two cents into the conversation and BOOM, another joint is in rotation again. Are these guys joking? Like are they trying to get you to a new level of high? Do they hate you or something? Nah.
As you sit there looking at your friend handing you the joint, you're about to say no and next thing you know you're taking another puff. Four joints in, you damn pothead. How did you get here?
But like really, how did you get here? Just a couple years ago, you had a completely different group of friends. One's who didn't smoke you out. They were like "Are you going to drop on it?"
Drop on it?! Is this a fucking pool where everyone pitches in to try to win the lottery and split it up? No. It's weed, dude. And you had friends who were asking you to drop some money? Wow, that's fucked up.
Imagine you're at your friends house for dinner. As they're making the food they're like "Hey this chicken cost me $11 and the potatoes cost $5 and the veggies cost $8. Can you drop $5 on a plate?"
That's your friend? Nah, that's not your friend. They probably never even smoked weed before. And if they did, take away they're weed privileges.
Smoking weed is all about sharing. Sharing stories, experiences, water, conspiracy theories, snacks, water, weed, water, weed.
Treat this 4/20 like it's Christmas. Gather your friends, family, and someone who could use some love and smoke some weed. Wear your comfiest clothes and take a load off. Roll ten fucking joints, who cares? It's Weed Christmas.
And if they don't smoke weed, just give them an edible. They'll be fine, they're not going to die.
People always look at New Year's Day to create a resolution for the year. But the real time to create a resolution should be when Spring comes.
There's nothing like that first sunny and breezy day that makes you feel like a new person. Those long cold winters always seem to give us a sense of comfort and warmth from being inside all the time. Spring is the time for weather change, and a mental cleanse.
Let's change the meaning of Spring Cleaning. Typically it's about donating your old clothes, getting a start on your yard for the summer, or cleaning out the garage. But let's do a Spring Cleaning for our lives.
The best part of winter and staying inside these days is watching Netflix and eating snacks all day. But those days are over. The sun is out and the flowers are blooming. They say April showers bring May flowers, but in Northern California, it's more like February to April and then May starts to get hot as hell.
There's a very small window for Spring here, so don't waste any time! Think about one specific goal you wanted to reach this year. If you haven't really gotten a start on it or are not where you'd like to be, now is the real time to start.
You may be feeling down on yourself for not doing what you said you would, but that sunshine will give you some Vitamin D and some positivity. Let this beautiful weather not only motivate you to clean your house, but also motivate you to cleanse yourself of all that is weighing you down or holding you back.
Take a look at the people around you and ask yourself if these people are motivating you to be better or are allowing you to continue living your simple and comfortable life. People will come and go in your life, so don't be afraid to use this time as a way to evaluate the friendships you have.
Life is too short to worry about hurting people's feelings. If there are people in your life who are not encouraging you to get your ass off of the couch, then it's time to live and let live! Wake up and realize that you are in control of who you surround yourself with, and you are only as strong as your weakest link.
This doesn't mean you have to cut people out of your life, but it does mean that you need to evaluate what's important. Life goals, physical health, and mental health. The only time you should be on your phone when the sun is out is to be taking pictures of the sky and the flowers and your beautiful face with your Spring glow.
Look at how you spend your free time. Relaxing and enjoying some alone time is great, but are you being productive? Sitting on the couch and watching television isn't exactly the best use of your time. Ask yourself what you can do to move forward.
When the time changes this time of year, they call it "Spring Forward." And usually it sounds like a bad thing because you're losing an hour. But just use it as a reminder that time is wasting!
Like really, what are you waiting for?!
When was the last time you went to the Dollar Tree? That place has everything. You go in there with $20 and you are literally a king.
They're not kidding when they say everything is one dollar. Shit, some stuff is even cheaper than that. They've got Hallmark greeting cards two for $1. Those things are like $5 at Target.
A five pack of Top Ramen, trash bags, a 40 pack of envelopes, a liter of Pepsi, silverware, deodorant, and whatever else you can possibly think of. So the real question is, why don't you shop there more often?
They have everything that you can find at any other store. Maybe other stores have better lighting and are more comfortable. Maybe it's because they sell everything in smaller packs so it could get annoying having to go back more often. Or maybe it's because it makes you feel broke.
Whatever the case is, let it go. The Dollar Tree kicks ass. When you see someone asking for money on the corner, we should be giving them gift cards to the Dollar Tree. At least we'd know that it's going to something other than alcohol and cigarettes.
There's really no deeper meaning here. Just be financially conscious in everything you do, and don't be afraid to shop at a place that was invented for #BrokeBoyz. Because if you keep spending more on stuff that you could be getting for a dollar, then you yourself with be a part of the #BrokeBoyz.
This one is for the cheap asses who like to buy Arizona's and Pringles and a bunch of stuff they don't without even spending $10.
Imagine if life went exactly the way you planned. You'd accomplish all of your goals, you'd keep all the people in your life that you think will guide your future, and you'd run into little to no adversity. And while that all sounds great, it also sounds kind of boring.
You're not boring. You weren't made to be boring. Your future won't be boring.
It would be great to live a comfortable life and never have a feeling of sink or swim. But that's not how people grow and learn and move forward. It happens through the unexpected.
The unexpected is exactly what you need to push you in the right direction. If you're the type of person to crumble in the face of the unexpected then maybe your life will be boring.
You'll allow yourself to fail in the face of adversity, and you'll shy away from a challenge. You'll continue to hang out with the same friends who do the same things every week. You'll never meet new people who genuinely impact your future positively.
So if you want to live boring, go ahead. Don't take challenges head on. Allow yourself to fail when the unexpected hits you. Hang on to all the people who are perfectly fine with you staying in the same position you are in.
People who genuinely care about you will root for you no matter where you go or what you do. It's the people who display jealousy and resentment towards you when you move on that you need to let go.
So take on a new challenge. Surround yourself with people who want you grow. Don't be boring. Be dope.
Putting your phone down, the most impossible task in the world. Everything in the world is right there at your fingertips. Social Media, News, texts from your mom asking you to take the chicken out of the freezer.
Being able to disconnect from the item that has seemingly become another part of our body is harder than it should be. Can you live without your phone? Of course you can. But can you live without your phone? Probably not.
The Apple iPhone has a setting that takes into account how much Screen Time you have used daily and weekly. It's actually a really scary thing to look at. Realizing how much of your day is being taken away because of the black hole of information that is contained in that tiny rectangular screen.
Putting your phone down and enjoying the world around you sounds like a simple solution. Yet it isn't that easy. But why?
Let's start with the essentials, because there are some things that you do actually need your phone for. The clock, because you need to know what time it is. Most people don't wear regular watches anymore unless its strictly for fashion.
Keeping in touch with your family. Grandma sends you that text every night "Goodnight sweetie. I love you!" And if you don't text her back she thinks something terrible has happened to you.
You need to check those emails, whether its for work or they're statements for your bills. You need to know what the weather is going to be like. And you need GPS to tell you where you're going. But everything after that is what gets us in trouble.
We need entertainment. Whether its Netflix, Spotify, Apple Podcasts, YouTube, or NBA League Pass, theres a plethora of entertainment that we can indulge ourselves in. And indulge we do.
If you're reading this right now, you're a reader (Which we promote here). But even reading stuff like this is for the use of entertainment. And although we must be entertained, there must be balance.
There's thousands and thousands of apps for gaming. This can be a fun little getaway from the realities of life at times, but I'm sure some modern day Oompa Loompas would have a song about why its bad for you.
But the biggest battle most people have with putting their phone down is because of social media. There's a million ways to stay connected with your friends, family, celebrities, your favorite restaurants or sports teams. Pretty much anything or anyone you can think of has a social media page.
It's not just one page, theres Facebook, Snapchat, Twitter, Instagram, Tumblr, Reddit, and whatever else the kids are using these days. And with so many options, it may turn you into Veruca Salt. Wanting everything at your fingertips with the push of a button.
This epidemic stems from a couple of reasons. The least worrisome is FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out). People want to constantly stay connected with the happenings in the world because they think if they don't check their phone every 20 minutes they might have missed out on something important. And in most cases, you're not missing out on much.
This dependency we have created for ourselves may not seem like much, but it is a small form of anxiety. Being behind everyone else who is staying up to the second with their feeds stresses us out. It gives one a sense of relief knowing that they're up to date with all their social media followings.
But the most troublesome reason is one that most of us may have trouble seeing within ourselves. There is a desire for others to see what we're up too or what we've posted.
When you post a picture on Instagram, you expect to get likes from your friends. When you send out a tweet on Twitter, you're hoping people either like it or retweet it or respond to it. It is a constant seeking of approval from those around you in the social media world.
There is nothing wrong with posting things that interest you and that you hope others are interested in as well. But its the underlying driving force to want to be liked that could lead you down a slippery slope.
So what can we do to not only limit our screen time, but make our screen time more valuable? It's starts with taking a look into the mirror. Or in this case, your front facing camera.
Look at your Screen Time and see what is taking up most of your time. More than likely it is going to be dominated by either Social Media, Entertainment, or Gaming. If you don't fall into any of those categories than you're probably a robot who lacks culture.
If you don't like what you see from your results, do something about it. If you're on social media too much, delete a couple of your apps. You don't need to stay connected through every social media app, most of them contain the same news just presented in a different way.
If you're indulging in too much entertainment, put a limit on how much Netflix you allow yourself to watch in a day. I'm pretty sure those movies and shows aren't going anywhere. You don't need to Binge Watch 5 hours of "Workin' Moms" in one day.
If you're playing too many games, delete all the apps except for one or two. Keeping just a couple on your phone at a time can help you limit yourself from trying to play every game every day.
You don't need to stop using your phone in order to stay connected with the real world. It's all about limiting the amount of useless crap you put into your brain. You need entertainment, social connections, and gaming to allow the creativity juices in your brain to flow.
But whatever you do, don't stop reading!
Phyllis Vance once said, "It's raining Cats and Dogs out there." And although that doesn't really make any sense, she's right in more ways than one. In this particular moment, she only meant it figuratively speaking as she was referring to how much rain there was.
But life is so much like these rainy days, but it's really all about your perspective on how to weather the storm.
Each and every day is unique in it's own way. Think of every new day as a person's fingerprint. Every fingerprint is similar, but none are the same. Not even identical twins have the same fingerprint.
So how are you treating each and every day? Are you treating them like they are similar? Or are you celebrating them in all of their uniqueness?
There is beauty in everyday, its just up to you to find what it is about that day that is special to you. Or how you're going to make that day special.
Too often, people get comfortable with being comfortable. When life gives them rain, they sit inside with a blanket and watch Netflix until the storm passes. But there is no better time than now to face the storm head on.
Whatever it is that you're going through right now, it's time to get your rain boots and get out there and put in work. The weather isn't going to change for you, the weather is the weather. So stop worrying about what you can't control, and take control of your situation.
Even if it's something small, a change for the better is always better.
By the end of the day Phyllis Vance's view on the storm changed because of her perception.
I mean normally the rain would make me want to stay at home curled up with a good book. But everyone is being so nice to me today, I'm really happy being here
So find your happy place in the middle of the rain, and you'll find yourself wishing for gray skies.